Overcoming "He's just a boy"


My son has developed some behaviors that are driving me batty.

And embarrassing the mess out of me, too.

Six months or so ago, my boy was a good, well-behaved boy that got super-excited when we had company over.

Sure, he got rowdy and excited and attention-hungry.

But he was, overall, well mannered.

Now.....well, he's mimicking behaviors I don't approve of.

Nevermind the fact that his vocabulary becomes instantly populated with bathroom-lingo.

Months later I can't seem to get it through to him that I never, ever, ever, EVER want to hear the phrases "dirty underwear", "tootie", "toot", "bootie", "boobies" or anything else bodily or bodily-function related used for entertainment purposes.

And for the last month or so he's been doing this thing where he slaps at his man-region when he's in rambunctious, rowdy-boy mode.

It's annoying, embarrassing, and vulgar.

And I can't get him to quit.

Time-out's not working and warnings never did.

So he's been made aware that warnings are out the window, such offenses (because they are quite offensive to me at the very least) will warrant automatic spanking or time-out.

I know it seems tough to do that, because so many people out there are of the mind that he's "just a boy" when he does this stuff. But I'm of the mind that there's "being a boy" and there's being nasty.

Now I just have to figure out how to let him be a boy, while teaching him not to be vulgar.

And I'm completely open to suggestions and any experiences anyone else has shared with it.

But the "he's just a boy" thing is totally not working with me.
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.