Tyisms: Baby


Ty told me this morning, "Mama, I want you to have a baby next year."

{{insert laughter here}}

I don't deny the boy much, but this wish will certainly be denied.
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Stepping out


So....my baby is sick.

If you'll remember from this post, my Rebel has been under the weather.

I placed her into good hands to have her shipped off and nursed back to health.

But she'll be gone 6-8 weeks.

Six-to-eight-weeks.



My heart hurts.



She'll be gone for Christmas.

All alone in some cold camera hospital.

And the worst part?

The worst part is that....well, I can't wait on her to get back.

I can't lose the memories that will be made in her absence.

(Besides, I seriously need a picture of me and Mystery Man!)

So I'm looking for a temporary fix until she gets back.

A cheap temporary fix.

That's low, I know.

But maybe when she returns she'll consider an ultra-compact like a little brother or sister. Maybe she can be its mentor, because--after all--an ultra-compact will never be able to do for me (or my pictures) what my Rebel can.

There is no replacing her.

There is only getting-by-without-her.

But, still, I feel like a bad person.
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

That's how you know


Once upon a time....

The best stories always begin that way.

My favorite stories always begin that way.

Which is why it's perfect for this blog.

Because once upon a time there was a guy and a girl.

And they went Christmas shopping.

They ventured through Sams Club and Toys R Us, Target and eventually Walmart.

They went up and down aisles, smiling and laughing and picking out toys for a special little boy.

At every Nerf display the guy would admire the swords that the girl couldn't fathom paying $17-$19 for. Because we'd need two. One for the little kid and one for the big kid.

{{grins}}

And in Toys R Us he paused to admire and test out the Transformers 'laptop'.

And at every display for GI Joe or Transformers or Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles the guy would light up and reverted to a 5 year old version of himself.

He would hold the action figures with a look of awe and splendor and wanted it the same way he wanted it almost two decades ago.

And he'd put it back on the shelf and return to the girl with a twinkle in his eye and a smile on his face much like that of a child on Christmas morning.

And the girl knew she absolutely adored the guy because it thrilled her to see how cute he was and how excited he got over these things.

And, as it always is when they're together, their day was perfect.
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Tyisms: Boys and Girls


Ty told Nana yesterday that boys and 'handsome' and 'cool' and <span class="fullpost">girls are 'beautiful' and 'exciting'.</span>
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Tyisms: Santa


Ty told me yesterday, "If Santa brings me sticks and coal<span class="fullpost"> I'm not going to care for him anymore."</span>
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Tyisms: Hottie


Ty told me that everyone was going to think I'm a hottie today<span class="fullpost"> in my batman shirt and yellow pony-tail holder.</span>
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

You might be OBSESSED if....


Okay, so once upon a time I read a book about a sparkly, well-mannered vampire who lives in this rainy town and falls in love with this clutzy, adoring girl that can think of nothing more than the beauty and divinity of said vampire.

And once upon a time I was all like, "Wow! Greatest book ever" because I think that young girls should have positive examples in romance and should set their sites on a man who will be respectful and treat them like a lady.

It was a good thing.

And I would have encouraged any guys to read the book to get an idea of how to be all sweet and old-fashioned good-guy with a girl.

It was a good thing.

But now......now it is not a good thing.

Some of these fans should be locked up for their own protection.

Seriously.

Straight-jackets have been handed out before for less insanity than these books and movies are causing!

Take a look at some of the items that fanatics can buy.

IT'S INSANE.

Let's start the day where you wake up, snuggled into your Robert Pattinson covered pillow and wrapped in your Edward duvet cover.


Keeps you pretty warm and snuggly for a dead guy, right?

You get out of bed and kiss your life-sized Edward wall decal.


Before getting into the shower, adorned with an Edward shower-curtain.


You get out and get dressed in your Edward T-shirt.


And don't forget your extremely disturbing Robert Pattinson panties.


Yes.

Panties.

I refuse to show you the VULGAR image on the inside of the panties.

After you're dressed and ready, you grab your signature Twilight jewelery from your Twilight Jewelery box...



and you head out the door, grabbing your keys--on your Twilight keychain, of course. And don't forget your Robert Pattinson coin purse in case you find any Twilight paraphernalia that you obviously would be completely incapable of passing up.


But, uh oh, it's raining.

Just like in Forks.

Which of course makes you swoon because you feel closer to Edward on rainy days.

Because he protects you from the rain with your handy-dandy Twilight umbrella.


You return home later, smiling as you see your New Moon door hanger.


You go inside and sit down at your computer to check the latest information on Eclipse, which premieres in two-hundred-seventeen day, nine hours, thirty-four-minutes and twenty-three...twenty-two...twenty-one seconds.

You know because you have tickers everywhere.

And you counted just to make sure it was right.

Over your desk is your beautiful Robert Pattinson.


And on your computer.


And on your mousepad.


And when you get bored on your computer, you can still play your Twilight game or work on your Twilight jigsaw puzzle.


Afterwards, it's time for your nightly love-package to none other than Edward/Robert himself. In it you include a picture of the pumpkin you carved for Halloween.


Which you seal with New Moon packing tape.


Uh oh. You cut yourself on the blade of the tape dispenser.

Guess you'll have to get out your New Moon bandaids.


Afterwards, you kiss your life-size standup of Robert/Edward goodnight.....


Before curling up in your Twilight-clad bed and writing about your love for Edward/Robert in your Twilight journal.


You end the night by snuggling up with your Twilight action figures and going to sleep.


Of course you'll dream about Twilight, too.

Because your life revolves around Twilight.

The book that I once read and enjoyed.

About a sparkly, well-mannered vampire who lives in this rainy town and falls in love with this clutzy, adoring girl that can think of nothing more than the beauty and divinity of said vampire.

But not anymore.

Thanks for that.
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Randomness abounds....


My job is like any other job.

There are days that I love and enjoy my job.

And there are days when 4:30 can't get here fast enough.

But it's my job and I'm surrounded by people I love.

And it's nothing if not entertaining.

Take this morning, for instance. Where else could you walk into the break room for your morning cup of coffee and be greeted by this?



I think I'll call him Orville.
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

My poor baby....


My camera is still sick.

I'm fairly confident it's not H1N1, but it's sick. And I'm sad.

Mostly for selfish reasons because I really, really, really want to snap a picture of me and Mystery Man so that I have it to swoon over on the days that 70 miles separates us.

But I'm also sad for my camera.

I've tried everything I can think of, but sometimes a Mama's Love just isn't enough.

So next Saturday, when Mystery Man and I go Christmas shopping (which I'm super excited about!), I'll take my camera to Bedford's in Little Rock and hand it over to Austin. And Austin will send it off and see to it that my little camera gets the care she needs to get rid of her Error 99 illness.

Because I've done everything I can think of. I've tried two different lenses, two different batteries, with the SD card, with a newly formatted SD card, without the SD card...

And Christmas is just around the corner.

And Ty's not getting any less animated or excited or cute.

So a Christmas without my camera isn't an option.

Especially not this Christmas.
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Tyisms: Fall


After passing burning leaves, Ty says, "It smells good. That's what Fall smells like."
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Tyisms: Justification


Ty's justification for wanting to wear play shoes to church: "Well, Kendyl thinks they look good!"
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Baby steps....


Out with the old and in with the new.

It's a theme that starts coming to mind this time of year.

Us moms start making room in the toy-chest for all the new arrivals that will show up Christmas morning.

At work we start closing out the year and getting ready for a new one with new files and folders and clutter.

In our personal lives we start thinking in terms of resolutions.

What have I drug with me through this year that I don't want to carry into next year?

For me, I could do without 5-10 lbs that's cluttering up my waist line.

Oh shutup. Us skinny girls have our flaws, too.

You should be glad to know that instead of rolling your eyes at me.

Yes you.

I saw that.

Anyway.

So it's a thing that's crossing the mind of many people.

And it's been crossing mine.

Because I've been carrying something around that I've been more than ready to chunk out the window for the past three years.

We'll call it the Three Year Curse.

And I'm ready for it to go.

But it's one of those things that a girl can't shake on her own.

She needs a man.

With broad shoulders and legs for lifting.

Kisses and smiles help, too.

Which makes me think that this year could be the year that I shrug off this baggage and leave it behind me.

This year could be the year that I walk, hand-in-hand, into a new year with new and promising adventures. With Mystery Man on one side and my Little Man on the other.

My two favorite guys.

The process has begun.

With baby steps.

I finally feel safe enough to tiptoe out of our little bubble and begin opening up about him and me and us and the good things happening there.

But it's baby steps.

He had to remind me last night, "It's not like we're hiding anything."

And it's not. The hushness and the secrecy and the mystery aren't because anything's being hidden.

Just protected.

But as things grow, they get stronger, and we're no different.

So I'm feeling safer and more capable of facing whatever may face us in the world out there.

In the new year and the new adventures we'll face.

Together.

Me and my two favorite guys.
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Tyisms: Praying


Ty on praying: "I always like to say little ones so I can get done quicker".
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

An even sweeter deal


My jaw just hit my chest a moment ago.

Because I'm sitting here, catching up on my blogs via Google Reader and I scroll through to find this one.

Emitations.com (the company that gave me my dear, sweet, beautiful Fern) has marked their animal cocktail rings down by up to 30% (though there were a few that actually appeared to be marked down a little more than that!)

PLUS, when I went to their site I noticed that you can take 20% off of ALL animal cocktail rings by using the coupon code 'ANIMAL' at checkout.

This is a major price break, people!

My dear sweet Fern, who was originally $500 is now listed at $257.25. Take another 20% off and you're getting Fern at close to 60% off of her original price!

Crazy!

And so you know, they haven't asked me to post this. Emitations.com doesn't even realize I'm posting this. But they've done so much for me and they've encouraged me and inspired me in ways they don't even know and I want to give back to them.


Plus, their animal cocktail rings are beautiful and eye-catching and are so fun to wear because of all the conversations and compliments they bring out of people.

Sooo, if you've been waiting for the right time and the sweetest deal, you're probably not going to find one better than this.

Go.

Buy.

Enjoy.

Smile.

Cause Fern makes me smile all the time.
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

My favorite things


Winter is coming.

It's fall, for now.

But winter is coming.

And I can't wait.

It's one of my very most favorite times of year.

Because so many good and beautiful and wonderful things happen during winter.

Some of my very most favorite things.


Christmas lights get hung.

Not just the little white dainty ones that looks so classy and unimaginative uniform. But those big gaudy C-9 multi-colored lights you'll find my house adorned with.

Because they're special.

Very special.

They were my PaPa's.

Then my Daddy's.

And now they're mine.

Standing in front of fireplaces.


Because there's nothing better than backing up to a fireplace and letting it warm you all over.

Or laying on the floor in front of it for a peaceful winter afternoon nap.

Icicles.

On the side of the house or hanging from leaves or branches or the bottom of your car.

They're beautiful and reflect the purest, most incredible light ever!

Seeing my breath in the air.

Because it's the best magic trick I can do for my little boy.

He thinks it's amazing and then will try to imitate me so he can do it, too!

Snuggling.

Not that snuggling isn't a favorite of mine year-round. But it's even better in the winter because it's more publicly acceptable if everyone thinks you're trying to keep warm!

Scarves, mittens & big heavy coats.


Cause there's nothing better than walking around wrapped in a warm hug from your warmest, snuggliest winter-apparrel.

Main streets at Christmas-time.


Because almost every city across America brings out the red bows and the green garland and the Christmas lights that shout the season all up and down the town!

Christmas Decorations of any kind.


Manger Scenes, best of all.


Because that's really what the holidays are about.

And presents.

Not this kind of present.


But the kind you feel from the inside. The kind that never leave you.

LOVE ♥ PEACE ♥ FAITH ♥ LAUGHTER ♥ HOPE ♥ JOY ♥ TIME

The kind of gifts that can be given by those who mean the very most to you--FAMILY OR FRIENDS--or those who you don't even know, strangers passing on the street.

It's my very favorite time of year.

Because it's full of my very favorite things.
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Broken


I'm broken.

I feel like half a person.

There's a hole in my life right now and I'm not sure how to fix it.

But I'm trying.

I put on my big girl pants and dismantled my sweet, precious, wonderful camera and am playing doctor with it.

Yes, camera.

My sweet camera is sick.

It's not coughing or sneezing or any of that.

It's worse.

It has an Error 99 code.

So I thought "Hmmm.....maybe the camera body and the 18-55mm lens have been spending too much time together and they're going through a tiff".

So I gave them a little distance and brought in it's faithful standby, the 75-300mm lens.

No dice.

So I've dismantled the whole thing, cleaned all the contacts with a pencil eraser, removed the battery (which is charging) and the SD card and I'm letting it sit and discharge for a while.

And once the battery charges, I shall insert the battery, turn it on and go from there.

Cross your fingers and pray it's not serious cause I'm going to see Mystery Man tomorrow and really am needing to steal a picture of me and him to swoon over when we're not together.

::wink::
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Tyisms: Pumpkins


Ty just came to me, upset that pumpkins aren't in the Orange Song because pumpkins are orange and should be in the Orange Song.
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

You win.


Dear Mr. Super Glue,

You win.

Again.

I am no match for you in both speed or strength.

I concede.


Warmly,


Stuck on You
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Tyisms: I Like Your Shirt


Ty just told me he likes my Razorback shirt...it's an OU Sooners shirt.
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Tyisms: Nose Hair


Ty quote to Nana: "There's hair in your nose!" To Poppy "there's big hair in your nose that's sticking out!" Nana told him that was his mustache!

Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

The thing about being happy...


...is that sometimes you feel guilty for being as happy as you are.

And the thing about time alone to work and to think is that sometimes that time alone isn't as beneficial as you want.

Take today for instance. Ty's with his grandparents and I wake up happy and in the air and feeling so very blessed, which I am. Don't ever think for an instance that I'm not.

So I get up and start my day with two cups of coffee, even spoiling myself to some caramel syrup in one.

I text back and forth a bit with Mystery Man and the day is good.

Life is good.

So I get on the lawn-mower and start mowing the grass that's needed cutting for more than a month now.

And I sing.

Like I always do.

I sing at the top of my lungs.

First I start with Let the Waters Rise by Mikeschair because that's just soooo my very favorite song right now (aside from Your Hands by JJ Heller, but I don't know that one well enough yet--having only discovered it last night--to go singing it at the top of my lungs in the middle of the free world)

And then I wander through a list of songs until I realize I'm singing Homesick by MercyMe.

Which is one of the most therapeutic songs for me.

Most of the time.

Today it was heart-wrenching and seems to have torn my very soul from my chest.

Why?

Because I'm happy.

And he wasn't.

Because I get to experience things he'll never know because he gave up.

He quit.

And I get so mad at him over that.

And then I feel bad because you can't be mad at the dead, right?

But I am. And I wish I could hit him and tell him how selfish he was and how stupid it was that he just gave up and never even tried to find a better day.

Because there are better days.

Always.

I've seen my share of low points. And I've savored my share of high and wonderful and mighty points.

And he never will.

Because he quit.

And as much as it hurts me to live without him, it hurts me even more that I resent that his loss can cast an occasional pall on my happiness.

Because I wish so bad that he could have know as much joy as he knew hurt.

I wish so badly that he could see life from my eyes and see that for as much hurt as you endure, you'll find twice as much joy in the long run.

I just wish I had him, alive and happy, instead of this hurt and this anger and this ache.
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

We are the Champions


We had our final soccer game last night.
Of the three, total, that weren't rained out.
One of which he cried all through and didn't play.
The other one he missed due to tonsillitis.
So I hyped him all up and told him that all he had to do was go out there and run and try to kick the ball and he'd get a TROPHY!!
AND that if he played and didn't cry, Mystery Man promised to come see us this week and bring his new Transformers movie for us to watch!
So he went and he did just that!!
I was SO.VERY.PROUD!!!
He asked me to walk him out there, so I did, I took him by the hand and then retreated to the sidelines to take pictures and for a second when everyone took off after the ball but him, I thought we were going to have a repeat of the last time. But then he took off and was all smiles from that point on out!!
It was after the sun had gone down, so the pictures are all kinda dark and grainy, but you get the idea!

Before the Game

He's the orange shirt at the right.




Getting their trophies (for participation).



He was SO tickled with and proud of his trophy!!

And Mama was just as proud for him, too!
And now for videos. Ty's in the orange #3 shirt with the black shorts and socks (kinda looks like he just has on black long pants)



Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.