You get what you look for


I am a Christian.

I do my best so that my life, my attitude, my words, and my actions exemplify that.

Unfortunately, I am also human.

I am sometimes tempted, weak and careless.

Thankfully, I am forgiven.

By God's mercy alone, I am forgiven.

And it's my job as a Christian to share His Love and His Word and His Mercy with others.

It's the duty of every Christian.

And yet it irks me the way some Christians handle their duty.

And I know that, as one body of Christ, we should stand united but it irks me that the different types of Christians undermine each other in the way that they present Christ.  (Yes, I know that this is not a one-sided issue, too, but the case for the other side of this argument is already very frequently presented)

I'm not a forceful Christian.  I try to put The Word out there in a way that I, myself, would be receptive to it.  Mostly through an example (which I recognize, sometimes I fall short of the example I should set), but also through sharing of both my experiences and The Word.

You will never catch me yelling at someone telling them that they're going to hell and that they should turn from their wicked ways.

Why?  Because we all have wicked ways that we must turn from.  Even the Saved.

Judge not, lest ye be judged.

Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

I just don't think it's a good idea to open yourself up to having all of that tossed back in your face.  I know I'm a sinner.  I know that I fail from time to time.

Why present myself in a light of moral superiority when that soapbox is so easily and so frequently kicked out from under those who stand up on it?

Sure I may not have committed the same sins that others have committed, but I have sinned, have I not?  And there is nowhere in my Bible that says that stealing is a worse sin than lying or that a judging heart is less of a sin than promiscuity.

My Bible says that a sin is a sin is a sin.

One is no less forgiven by God than the other.

So you'll not catch me singling out the 'whores' or the 'thieves' or the 'murderers' for their sinful ways when the 'righteous' are just as prone to sin as the 'unrighteous'.

Another thing?  There's good and bad in everything.  Especially in mainstream America.  The music, the movies, the television shows.  There's honestly good and bad in everything.  If you look hard enough, you can find some parallel of a Godly, Christian message in so much of the media out there.  And likewise, you can find disgusting and amoral standards in so much of the media out there.

I really think that you find what you're looking for.

And sure, there's good with the bad in most of it (kinda like real life).  Take Glee, for example.  Glee had a wonderful episode a few weeks back on sexuality.  It had a heartwarming and praiseworthy discussion about sex between a father and a son and it really got down to some things that I hope to be able to say it to my children someday because it pointed out some things that just really clicked with me because I never really realized how physical intimacy could affect you, until I looked back one day and saw how it had hurt how I felt about myself and others.

"It means something. It's doing something to your heart to your self esteem even though it feels like you're just having fun... Use it as away to connect to another person. Don't throw yourself around like you don't matter. Because you matter."

How I wish I’d known that before I even had my first kiss.

But in that same episode that had such good food for the soul (for me at least), Gwyneth Paltrow’s character played the devil’s advocate and called some of the girls from an abstinence group naive and frigid which honestly made me cringe to hear because at that age, I was very much that type of girl, no matter how life turned out for me.

Instead of viewing this as a reason to boycott a show that otherwise does have some very good messages in it, I prefer to think of it as a bit of reality.

Some people really feel that way.  I can’t boycott society simply because I disagree with some of the beliefs or ideas out there.  But I can take the fact that some people out there feel that way and I can learn how to educate them (and myself) so that I can be a better witness to them.

Because people don’t often think or feel a certain way for no reason at all; actually they can often tell you exactly who or what made them feel or believe the way they do.

The point is, if you’re looking for reasons to be disgusted with songs or shows or movies or others…you’re going to find it, and you’re going to blog about it and preach about it and rally against it.

And everyone out there that’s looking for any reason to be disgusted with Christians are going to find it, too.  And they’re going to blog about us and rally against us, too.

So while I commend those Christians who take a valiant stand on what we believe and while I appreciate that they're more vocal and more "out there" with our beliefs than I tend to be...sometimes I just wish they'd take a step back and listen to themselves and watch themselves and examine themselves.

How can we portray a humble God of love and forgiveness when all we show others are hate, judgment, superiority & condemnation?

Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.