"I'm Sorry" doesn't seem to be the hardest words


Bear with me. This one's been festering under the surface for a few months.

And it began to come to a head a few weeks ago from separate unrelated incidences.

And if you know me, you know I can't resist it once it comes to a head. I must pick at it and, eventually, pop it.

Because that's how I get rid of irritations. I get the junk out there and let nature run its cleansing course. Especially if it's not one single little imperfection. When it's a whole breakout it's really hard to resist.

What's got me speaking in blemishes?

Apologies.

And how they're misused and abused.

“I'm sorry”, to me, should be reserved for when you accidentally did something that you had no intentions of doing and you truly, honestly, and sincerely regret it. In Insurance terms: "Sudden and accidental."

Then you say “I'm sorry” with your mouth, and you mean it with your heart and actions.

That's what “I'm sorry” is for.

“I'm sorry” is not for those instances in which you say or do something you know you shouldn't say or do, but you say or do it anyway just cause you feel like it or you think you're entitled to (which you're not, but that's an altogether separate blog)

Because that's a conscious decision in which you decide that it's worth it to you, regardless of the eventual cost or unpleasantness.

“I'm sorry” does not apply in that instance.

Which translates to: No one has the right to say or do something to intentionally hurt someone else and expect that they can just make it better with an apology.
But on that train of thought, let's pretend for a moment that life really does work that way.

That I really can do whatever I want to do without fear of the consequences as long as I say two little magic words.

So if I'm having a bad day and someone cuts me off in traffic and it's that last straw that makes me mad enough...I can follow them home and exact whatever revenge I want to on them (sorry, Jeff Lindsay is the latest author I've been reading), and if they're seriously injured or worse then it's okay, because I can just say “I'm sorry” and everything is instantly better! No need to actually feel bad or be remorseful for what I did. Sure it affected someone else and hurt someone else and may have permanently affected someone else. (Need I re-blog about how words have as powerful of an effect on others as a physical blow?)

But if I say “I'm sorry” there's no sense in it affecting me--the individual who made the decision in question.

Because “I'm sorry” isn't as difficult to say as it should be.
Ashley Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.