Be Good and Do Good
This is how the course of our conversation goes for the almost-20 minute drive from our house to the school. Every day it's a new topic, but the end-routine is always the same. When we turn into the school drive I tell him to get his stuff ready (which means getting his backpack and lunchbox ready and going ahead and unbuckling so he can get out when the staff opens his door). Thus begins Mama's standard goodbye.
"I hope you have a good day today, Bub."
"Thanks Mom." (Sometimes he'll wish me the same.)
"I love you"
"Love you, too."
And as the door opens for him to embark on his day, I always tell him, "Be good and do good".
And the door closes and he's off.
And sometimes I wonder if he hears those words, but I always want them to be the last words he hears from me as he starts his day.
Be good and do good.
It's my wish for the kind of man he'll grow up to be.
I don't want him to just act right and behave inside the confines of polite society. I want him to actively do right.
I want his actions to be a reflection of who he is on the inside. Because he's a compassionate and kind-hearted kid. He's a do-gooder and a pleaser like his Mama. But he's an only child, so he can be selfish. He's a boy, so he can be loud. And he's his learned enough from his PaPaw that he can be a little onery, too. ;)
But down at the core of it all, he's good. And that's not just a Mama's bias.
It is how I want him to stay, too. So that's why, each day, as he's faced with new decisions, my final reminder to him is always "Be good and do good."
It's my wish for the boy he is and the man he'll grow up to be.
Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.