Instagrams | One-of-a-Kind




Ashley Harris Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Instagrams | One-Eyed Jack



Ashley Harris Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

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Ashley Harris Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

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Ashley Harris Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

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Ashley Harris Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Instagrams | His Best Friend


#Papawshisbestfriend
Ashley Harris Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Instagrams | Photo #1


Photo #1.
Ashley Harris Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Instagrams | Photo #2


Photo #2: because my husband couldn't be serious for Photo #1.
Ashley Harris Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Instagrams | He Loves Me


Bought this necklace when The Husband and I were dating, more than four years later we're about to celebrate three years of marriage. #helovesme
Ashley Harris Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Mind Your "But"


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The word "but" has bothered me for years now.

Early on in our marriage, one of our little arguments became a little bigger because my husband used the word "but" in his argument against me.

I don't like "but" in a lot of contexts and for several reasons.

Mostly because often-times when you use "but" in a sentence, it diminishes anything said before it and emphasizes everything said after it.

So the words, "I like Cheese Its, but I really love buttered popcorn." are really saying "I really love buttered popcorn, but Cheese Its are okay, too."

Where this isn't necessarily a problem when snack foods are concerned, it can be a problem where real life is concerned.

In the days before my wedding, I had a train of "buts" come through my life that hurt me (not by my husband, no worries!).  "I love you, but...", "I'm sorry, but...", "I know I shouldn't say this, but...", "I'm happy for you and (Husband), but...".

The worst kind of "buts".

The "buts" that shouldn't be said.

And in that early argument in our marriage, I laid out my feelings about this word for my new husband.

Some words should never have a "but".

I love you.

I'm sorry.

"But" should never follow those.  Those words are too invaluable and too meaningful to tarnish with anything else.  They should never have a "but" attached to them.

Love has no conditions.  You can't love someone but hate how they leave their socks in the bathroom floor. You either love them or you don't.  You can love them despite their habits, though.

"I'm sorry, but" doesn't mean you're sorry, it means you know you shouldn't say what you're about to say, but you don't value that person enough to refrain from saying it.

And in the early months following that early argument, I was surprised to see that my new husband heard me.  And must have agreed with me.  Because one afternoon when The Boy launched into an argument with The Husband, he stopped The Boy and explained to him that we don't use "but" that way.

"But" isn't an excuse to say something we know we shouldn't say.  There's no justification for deliberately hurting the feelings of others.  And that's a big part of the role "but" has come to play.  We start out with a polite sentiment and reverse it with an ugly statement to follow it.

How we would change ourselves and others if we made "but" a positive word.

"I like that shirt, but I really love the necklace you've paired it with."

"I've always thought you were so much fun, but the more I get to know you, the more I really admire you."

My goal—and it's not always easy—is to mind my "but".  If my "but" doesn't make my statement better....maybe I would be better off keeping my "but" to myself.
Ashley Harris Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

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Ashley Harris Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Instagrams | Pokemon


Ashley Harris Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.

Free to Be Me


Acceptance is the best gift we can get or give.

Believe me, I get that more than I wish I did.

To be "good enough" for those that mean so much to us...we have dreams about it.  We read books and watch movies about it.  We all want to measure up to those that we love and admire.

We all have people in our lives and in our pasts that we just could never be good enough for.  We might have been good...just not good enough and definitely not the favorite.

I don't brag on my husband enough, but this is one thing I can brag on him about.

He accepts me.

I'm controlling and opinionated and stubborn as the day is long.

And he deals with that and loves me anyway.

He was made for me.

Seriously.

He's a 'video-game addict', but that's because God knew that I would need my downtime.  I love books and I love computers, and sometimes I just like being alone and God knew that I wouldn't work well in a co-dependent relationship so He gave my husband a hobby that he enjoys and that he could share with Ty.  So He created my husband with this 'addiction' that I'm perfectly okay with.  And a little thankful for, too, if we're being honest.

God also knew that I would need to be able to express myself endlessly but that I would accept basically no advice on how to 'fix' things that bother me.  So instead of giving me a husband with the typical 'fix it' type of mentality that many men have, He gave me one who would listen and rub my back or give me a hug but would—for the most part—keep his suggestions to himself.  And because of that, I find that I pay better attention to what he says when he does make requests or give suggestions—like asking me to adjust my privacy settings on Facebook or reword certain things in my blogs (he's my filter, this will be one of the very few blogs that I post before asking him to read it and give his blessing on it).

God molded my husband to be this way because my Daddy is the same way.  Just this week I felt like emptied my heart in my Daddy's ear and he just listened.  He didn't tell me what I did wrong or right.  He didn't pick apart my words and make me question myself.  He didn't fluff up my ego and make me feel validated.  He just listened.

I would do well to remember how invaluable that was to me the next time someone else unburdens themselves to me.

God also created my husband with a healthy dose of inner-nerd.  Even though he keeps it far more hidden from much of his family and friends than I, personally, wish he did.  I'm all about the 'owning who you are' because I am so over people who judge you for who you are.  Or aren't.

He doesn't hide who he is because he's ashamed of it, though, it just doesn't apply to everyone in his life. And it balances me that he is that way because when that particular 'give a damn' broke in my life, I would probably be a lot less tolerable to others if he didn't reign me in a little bit.  This is a good thing, even if I don't always appreciate it.  He loves me and my every little quirk.  But he helps keep those little quirks from getting me in trouble.

He's my filter.

He's my other half.

He's my best friend.

I'm so thankful he builds upon me, balances me, directs me, and accepts me.
Ashley Harris Wife & Mom

Ashley is a thirty-something wife and mother of two boys. She enjoys spending time with her family, as well as reading and decorating their home. Her blogging adventures began in 2006 as a single mother and have carried on through marriage and a new life with a husband, a ten-year-old, and an infant.